
Vi chats with one of the ladies before class
When I accepted Tracey's kind invitation to attend a Monday morning Bible study this term, I checked to make sure my children would be allowed to skip the
creche and sit in the study with me. Ben and I choose to keep our children with us rather than having others care for them, so I have to select my study opportunities carefully.
Tracey generously extended her welcome to Nikki, Michael, and Vi, and I have been bringing all three children to Bible study each week (except during unavoidable disruptions such as the
croup, or when Ben accidentally took the car keys to work with him).
Most mums wouldn't consider asking their children to be still and quiet each week during a two-hour adult study. For me keeping young children content, contained, and quiet remains a challenge, but it is one I have been facing since my firstborn was just eight weeks old. That's when we moved to Egypt and hired Nadia as our housekeeper. She was a lovely woman but I felt a lot of pressure to keep Nikki happy since
Nadia would drop everything and come running at the slightest whimper.
So it was from the very beginning that I learned to anticipate a fuss before it really got started. It was also during this time that I honed my babywearing and breastfeeding skills. I walked up and down the hallways inside our house and on the streets of Cairo singing, soothing and parenting in a variety of challenging situations.
These same skills expanded during our time in Egypt as I have attended morning Bible study then an evening cell group with one and then two children in tow. Since I have parented in public almost from the beginning, I find it possible to go places and attempt things, such as attending Bible study with three children, that I otherwise wouldn't have been able to consider.
For anyone else who would like to attend a study session with littlies in tow, I credit the following conditions for success:
- an interesting study and the gracious ladies in it
- one or two hours each Sunday afternoon while Ben looks after the kids so I can blitz through the week's homework
- as much as possible, I explained what the group would be like and my expectations for Nikki and Michael's behaviour so they could best show love and honour to me and the other ladies in the study
- Nikki and Michael are cooperative and happily incentivized with raisin snacks which they get to eat during the second hour if they are quiet during the first hour
- I also give my older children two opportunities to use the toilet during the two-hour study (immediately before and during a brief break in the middle)
- Vi's desire to rearrange the church library where we meet is curtailed by her willingness to sleep on my back in the Ergo

Bible study is probably the most challenging part of my week, but it has been rewarding as well. As I have carried on, I have fought
my awkward tendency to avoid social obligations, learned a lot more about Esther, and I have gotten to know some ladies I wouldn't have otherwise met, as well as spending more time with friends whom I already knew and liked.
I haven't quite decided whether we'll attempt to continue with the study next term, but I am very grateful to all the ladies who made us feel welcome and put up with the occasional kid-related distraction during our Esther study!