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29 Jun, 2010

clean, fresh diaper

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

Vi is back in cloth nappies during the day.
 
 
While I look forward to showing her Itti Bittis off during warmer weather, for now I am delighted with how easily they fit under her warm clothes.

18 Jun, 2010

clapping and giggling

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

 
Vi claps and giggles when anyone in the family says "yea!"
 
 

14 Jun, 2010

Bible study with littlies

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth


Vi chats with one of the ladies before class
 
When I accepted Tracey's kind invitation to attend a Monday morning Bible study this term, I checked to make sure my children would be allowed to skip the creche and sit in the study with me. Ben and I choose to keep our children with us rather than having others care for them, so I have to select my study opportunities carefully.
 
Tracey generously extended her welcome to Nikki, Michael, and Vi, and I have been bringing all three children to Bible study each week (except during unavoidable disruptions such as the croup, or when Ben accidentally took the car keys to work with him).
 
Most mums wouldn't consider asking their children to be still and quiet each week during a two-hour adult study. For me keeping young children content, contained, and quiet remains a challenge, but it is one I have been facing since my firstborn was just eight weeks old. That's when we moved to Egypt and hired Nadia as our housekeeper. She was a lovely woman but I felt a lot of pressure to keep Nikki happy since Nadia would drop everything and come running at the slightest whimper.
 
So it was from the very beginning that I learned to anticipate a fuss before it really got started. It was also during this time that I honed my babywearing and breastfeeding skills. I walked up and down the hallways inside our house and on the streets of Cairo singing, soothing and parenting in a variety of challenging situations.
 
These same skills expanded during our time in Egypt as I have attended morning Bible study then an evening cell group with one and then two children in tow. Since I have parented in public almost from the beginning, I find it possible to go places and attempt things, such as attending Bible study with three children, that I otherwise wouldn't have been able to consider.
 
For anyone else who would like to attend a study session with littlies in tow, I credit the following conditions for success:
 
  • an interesting study and the gracious ladies in it
  • one or two hours each Sunday afternoon while Ben looks after the kids so I can blitz through the week's homework
  • as much as possible, I explained what the group would be like and my expectations for Nikki and Michael's behaviour so they could best show love and honour to me and the other ladies in the study
  • Nikki and Michael are cooperative and happily incentivized with raisin snacks which they get to eat during the second hour if they are quiet during the first hour
  • I also give my older children two opportunities to use the toilet during the two-hour study (immediately before and during a brief break in the middle)
  • Vi's desire to rearrange the church library where we meet is curtailed by her willingness to sleep on my back in the Ergo
 
     
 
Bible study is probably the most challenging part of my week, but it has been rewarding as well. As I have carried on, I have fought my awkward tendency to avoid social obligations, learned a lot more about Esther, and I have gotten to know some ladies I wouldn't have otherwise met, as well as spending more time with friends whom I already knew and liked.
 
I haven't quite decided whether we'll attempt to continue with the study next term, but I am very grateful to all the ladies who made us feel welcome and put up with the occasional kid-related distraction during our Esther study!

10 Jun, 2010

making tracks

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

 
Vi loves to be included in the older children's games.
 

08 Jun, 2010

triplex nursing

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

I have a cold, so I challenged myself to create several days of blog posts from just one evening of photos. Enjoy!
 
 
It's been nine months since I embarked on my latest breastfeeding adventure - tandem feeding three children of different ages, or, as my friend Megan calls it, "triplex nursing."
 
As I have found since I first began tandem nursing when Michael was born, success and sanity rest in setting appropriate boundaries.
 
We have experimented and adjusted during the past several months, and I will document here the current status quo we are enjoying:
  • Vi nurses on demand, day and night
  • Michael was nursing on demand as well. I had to curtail the amount he was nursing, not because of excessive demand as in Nikki's case, but because of potty training. Michael's bladder fills quickly during a breastfeed, causing him to run to the toilet, come back for more numnums, and back and forth. Sometimes he wouldn't quite make it to the toilet, so he would clean up the mess then want to nurse again. In response, I initially curtailed further numnums if Michael wet his pants. This dramatically improved his accuracy in getting all his waste in the toilet. However, the back and forth to the toilet was still taking a lot of time and diminishing Vi's ability to nurse on demand.
  • Now the rules are almost the same for Nikki and Michael. They each get "after breakfast numnums". Michael gets one numnum. I then require him to go use the toilet, wash his hands, and come back wearing the same clean, dry pair of pants. Once his hands are washed he has his second numnum on the other side. Nikki gets one numnum on one side if Michael keeps his pants dry during his mid-numnum toilet run. This is to give her an incentive to go with Michael to the outside toilet and encourage, rather than distract, him in his task.
  • Both children also get "after nap numnums," though if Nikki acts up during naptime she forfeits her treat.
  • If Nikki and Michael wake up around the same time from their nap, they each want their numnum first. If it's an odd day, the child born on an odd day goes first. Even days yield the opposite result. This has led to Nikki paying close attention to our calendar.
  • Neither of my older children have any numnums either before breakfast or after dinner.
Nikki is heading toward her fourth year, and I am starting to explore alternatives to nursing in order to get her down to one breastfeeding session per day. Suggestions that might be attractive to Nikki but not Michael would be very welcome, as I don't believe he's ready to wean yet. For instance, I'm not particularly interested in cow's milk as a straight-up substitute, since I don't want to give Michael the wrong impression.

04 Jun, 2010

Vi signals to be picked up

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

Baby sign language is so helpful. It makes my job easier when my children communicate what they need and want. So, from around 6 months old, we start associating sign language with some of baby's most basic desires.
 
Being picked up is always popular - 'up' was Nikki's first word. Vi also likes to be up. But rather than the traditional finger pointing up, Vi pauses in her cruising to tap on the sofa. Or if she's out crawling, she'll crawl up to me, sit down and tap her chest.
 
 
Even if the sign is an adaptation, it is important to acknowledge it so Vi knows she is communicating successfully. By scooping her up when she taps, we are encouraging Vi to try other signs and, eventually, words.
 
 

28 May, 2010

a slice of the three kiddo life

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

 
The quiet moments contain simple reminders of great blessings.
 
 

26 May, 2010

simultaneous story time

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

Congratulations to Kayla, who worked VERY hard on her birthday to bring her firstborn into the world in the wee hours of the next morning. Leonydas Matthew, born to Kayla and Aaron on 26 May, is one cute baby, weighing in at 8lb 8.6oz and 22.25 inches long!
 
Today we stumbled upon an annual Aussie tradition, where mayors across the country all read the same book at the same time to children in their local libraries.
 
 
Little White Dogs Can't Jump is a picture book, but it struck me as one of those that's more for the parents than the kids. I couldn't help but feel sorry for all these mayors across the country simultaneously struggling to explain picture book humor line by line. Nevertheless, our mayor assured us that this was his favourite event of the year.
 
 
As we prepared to make crafts afterward, the mayor asked everyone who they would give their completed crafts to. "Mum" came the reply. Then the mayor asked his grandson who he would give his craft to. "Mum." So the mayor laughed and left without a paper dog to commemorate his visit.
 
     
 

20 May, 2010

cruising

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

 
Vi has been cruising along the furniture for weeks. Her additional mobility increases the scope of pillaging and marauding.
 
 

11 May, 2010

afternoon rest time

Posted by: blissfule In: Perth

Most days, afternoon rest time means Nikki and Michael lie quietly in their beds "until the red disappears." Generally they sleep two hours and sometimes more. When Nikki and Michael wake up they each join Mama on the sofa where we have a post-nap cuddle.
 

photo credit :: Elisa holding her phone at arm's length
 
On Fridays, since Michael usually falls asleep on the way home from music class, and since the kids don't seem to need another two hour nap after having four in a row, I have begun "Friday rest time."
 
"Friday rest time" involves Nikki and Michael playing quietly in the living room. The key word here is "quietly." If someone is loud or asks Mama a question, they have to go lay down on their bed quietly for a while before they can come back and play. Inspired by MaryAnne at Mama Smiles, I am using this quiet play time for audio books, which further encourages the kids to be quiet and listen while they play.
 
advantages of "Friday rest time"
 
The kids love having a rest in the same room as me. After the first Friday rest time, Nikki told me she liked it much better than nap time. I asked her why, thinking she was excited about being able to play with toys, but she surprised me by saying that she didn't like not being able to see me when she was in her bed during normal naptime.
 
The second advantage is one that I didn't anticipate but happily accept. During "Friday rest time" Vi is usually happy and alert and she loves playing with Nikki and Michael. With all three children happily occupied and not on my lap, I can type with both hands on the keyboard, a rare and wonderful luxury.

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Blissful E is about parenting peacefully, sustainably, joyfully, and with a view toward maximizing long-term benefits for the entire family.
 
I believe that the more wisely we invest in the early years of our children's lives, the greater the benefits for us and them as they grow.
 
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